The Conversations Some Spouses Never Have But Should
While the famous “irreconcilable differences” provides a legal ground for divorce, the truth is that all couples have irreconcilable differences. In fact, even in the happiest of marriages, a number of marital arguments may never be resolved.
What creates disharmony, on the other hand, is the futile insistence on reconciling disparities that are based on people having their own identities, differences of personality, history, childhood wounds, fears, etc. Successful couples learn to make room for those differences and come up with strategies to manage them without getting deadlocked into positional and self-righteous attitudes.